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Notes:
I highly recommend the book by Meghan Devine, "It's Okay that You're Not Okay." In my opinion, she truly "gets" that grief is poorly understood by most people in our lives.
Documents:
August 1, 2025
Some of these worksheets can be found in my Free Downloads portal (password ilovemypet, all lower case) but I wanted to give you the direct links so that you don't have to wade through other stuff to find them:
- Exercises for Releasing Anger
- More on Releasing Anger
What I will say about anger, is that it's there for a reason. Before we can work toward releasing it, it can be helpful to ask what the message is that we need to pay attention to. "What is anger saying to me? What might be hiding beneath the anger?" It can help to journal about anger in order to explore what comes up for you when you are feeling anger. Maybe anger is really emotional pain; disappointment; fear; etc. I think of anger as a very important barometer of when my needs and boundaries need to be looked at more closely. - Self-Care Goals & Tracker This is such a helpful tool for making some small, manageable self-care goals for the week.
- Self-Compassion I would like to challenge you to read through the self-compassion messages and adopt one or more each day for the following week. More that positive affirmations, these are words that we can choose to replace the ones that are toxic and harmful such as "I should have..." or "If only I had..." Those messages are not helpful! We can choose to switch to something more helpful and supportive for ourselves rather than allowing ourselves to get stuck in hurtful messaging---even if the messaging has an element of truth. Another helpful tool with negative self-talk is to ask ourselves, "Where does this messaging come from? Did I grow up thinking these things about myself, or did this messaging come from someone else?" We also get to decide if someone else's harmful messaging and expectations of us serve us now, in the present. If not, you can say "This is not helpful" and choose another message that better supports you and your needs at this time.
- Creating a Comfort Kit I have one of these for myself! Having simple ways to self-soothe is so important to our emotional wellbeing, and I find it useful to have some things at my fingertips just for that purpose. You might think of others!
- Empty House
